Feeling the Fear and Doing it Anyway

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How We Can Create Worlds by Moving with Uncertainty

This past September, I was stalling - hard. I was a week away from a deadline and telling myself all kinds of stories about why I couldn't meet it.

I had a coaching program I had been planning to release for about 6 months. It was time to roll it out and I was finding all the reasons it wasn't ready - I had more materials to prepare, more research to do, I didn't have my marketing plan in place and couldn't POSSIBLY get it ready soon enough - blah, blah,blah.

In reality, I wasn't ready. I wasn't ready to risk falling flat on my face. 

I do this to myself. I get caught up in perfectionism. I make something so important that failing at it feels like the end of days.

And while I was feeling unready for the "business" aspects of what I wanted to do, I was aching to do the work. The work is what I enjoy. Engaging with people in real time, connecting with them in meaningful ways - that is what fills my soul.

Being in this stuck place was draining me, I was dying on the vine. Being "not ready" but wanting to do the thing 

But luckily, I have a coach that calls me out when I need it.

"You could push it off until next year. But as your coach, it's my job to push you out of your comfort zone. What if you just did it, right now, from where you are - ready or not? Who could you become in taking the risk?"

So I took the leap. I made some adjustments to my plan so I could launch and run the program before the end of 2025. 

I embraced the "not ready." I embraced the imperfection. At times I was flying by the seat of my pants, wondering if I really knew what I was doing.

This past Saturday was the culmination of the program. And it was beautiful. 

In the program, called the Inner Monologue Method, I support people in really getting to know the voices in their head. They name them. They turn them into characters (like in a play) and explore them. They get to know their needs and wants. They forge new relationships with these voices, turning some voices down and others up. They rewrite the inner script. 

Then they perform the new script as a play (or song, or poem), sharing with others what they have learned and the transformations they have experienced.

What people shared was so moving. Tears flowed (including mine). 

As we celebrated each person's discoveries and new, empowered voices, several participants said they felt the program changed their lives. 

And that was music to my ears, because that is my deep joy - supporting people in stepping into their brilliance, embracing who they truly are, watching them open up to the light that shines in them. It is such a privilege.

But I almost let 2025 wrap up without this happening because I was afraid it might not be "good enough," in other words I might not be good enough.

Creating a world comes with discomfort. It comes with uncertainty. It comes with "what if it doesn't work out?"

But what if it does? What if you create something beyond your wildest imaginings? What if you create something so beautiful it moves you (and others) to tears?

You'll never know until you start. And you let your life force drain away when you don't.

We tell ourselves it's okay to put off what we feel called to do because the timing just isn't "right," we'll get to it - eventually - but the real truth is that putting it off costs us being vitally alive.

Creating a world is not for the faint of heart. 

Birthing is messy business. Babies don't come out of the birth canal squeaky clean. Moms aren't whistling a happy tune when those labor pains strike.

There is screaming. There is cursing. There is declaring "I will never do this again!" 

And all that has to happen before the baby can come into the world to be treasured.

So it's not for the hobbyist, this creating, not meant to be entertainment or mere distraction because it doesn't happen overnight.

It takes work. It takes courage. It takes perseverance.

It takes rolling up our sleeves and doing the things we tell ourselves we can't or don't know how to do or don't want to do.

And it takes being willing to give birth to something that isn't what you expected, something that will have a life of its own.

That can be the scariest part of all.

But it is so worth it. 

I was flooded with joy watching my participants share on our final call, hearing them take a stand for what they wanted in their lives moving forward, knowing how their transformations will blaze a path for others. 

I was a proud mama. And I can't wait to see what's next.

What stops you from creating the world you want to birth? What is the fear? Where is their uncertainty or doubt? How can you take one step forward in the midst of that?

Just like a woman's body leaning into childbirth, let your ache lead the way...